Archive for May, 2009
I come from the possibility that anyone can create an ideal relationship. A recent guest on our pod cast, Margie Warrell, made it clear how important courage is to the process of creating an ideal relationship.
In order to create one with someone else, you have to begin by creating an ideal relationship with yourself. This process takes tremendous courage! There is much about ourselves we’d rather not face. But this is the part of us that bites us on the butt in relationships…the part that sabotages intimacy and commitment.
Rather than wax on philosophically about the point I’m trying to make, listen to our conversation with Margie as she helps us explore the courage it takes to be authentic, real, and intimate in our romantic (or any other) relationship. In the meantime, at some point today stop and tell you, “I love you,” allowing your courage to rise up and meet the fear that would have you laugh at the thought!
To love or not to love is a matter of the heart. Love is an expression of the heart. But one thing I’ve learned in the last decade working with individuals in the area of relationships is that the will is critical to maintaining the relationship – maintaining the love.
I recently learned of a couple who were floundering in despair, headed for divorce. As a couple, they had lost their way. But it was also clear they had lost their will to maintain the relationship. Their relationship had disintegrated to where both of them felt deeply victimized by the other. They had lost their will to maintain the love (they had lost their will to stay in love) and in losing it, they had lost their way. (more…)