Having a series of monogamous relationships before deciding to get married is the norm these days. At least two, if not three or four, generations have grown up watching their parents’ marriages come to an end. Some of those parents’ second and third marriages have also ended in divorce. Today, people get married later in their young adult years in an effort to avoid the pain and suffering they witnessed as children and teens.
In the meantime, adults of all ages do not remain celibate while they are searching for their one love in a lifetime. They have a series of monogamous relationships, each one likely filling a variety of personal and social needs until the right one comes along.
As a result, many people want to know how to end a long term relationship with love, grace, and dignity. If you want to make your relationship ending a loving one, I have good news for you. In your desire is the secret to how to do it. By having the desire to create a loving ending, you are already taking responsibility. That is important because the way you create a loving end to any relationship is to take 100% responsibility for what you created in that relationship.
Now, taking that level of responsibility for what you created in the relationship goes beyond the common defense of, “It’s not you it’s me.” That statement never made anyone feel better, neither the giver nor the receiver! It’s really just a cop out for when you want out as quickly and painlessly as possible.
